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June 22, 2011


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Nicole Maki

I'm sorry, Cath.

We always feel that way after the flurry of moving related activity dies down and we realize we're all alone again.

Generally doing some adventuring, getting out finding new favorite things etc. helps a little.

Hang in there.

Joan B

I am sorry that you feel this way even for a moment. I hope the moments like this eventually fade and then you wonder how you ever handled being surrounded by so many people.


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stefanie hamilton

Okay, that's it. I am packing up and moving to New Hampshire to be your neighbor. :-) Big hugs to you, my dear dear friend.

Christina MacLaren

I'm so sorry to hear this Cath. I hope that things start to look up for you as you find your place in your new environment. I can honestly say that it took me at least a year to adjust to living in New England, to really feel like I could call this home. I still have lonely days when I ache for my family and friends in the Midwest, but they do come less frequently with time, and I wish that for you, as well.

I don't know where you are in NH, but I'm right on the border with Salem, so feel free to drop me a line anytime. Hugs to you!


After all the excitement of the move, the packing, the traveling, the unpacking, and the initial settling, there's an understandable period of malaise.

Get a library card, find a book group, join a gym, go to an lss craft night, and start getting yourself out there. Eventually you'll meet other people that'll fill that void.

Until then, {{((cyberhugs))}}.


that's always the way it is, catherine. tomorrow will be better - promise. If you need a hug - COME TO TENNESSEE!


When I moved half way across the world to Massachusetts, I knew one person in this country - my husband. The tiny local library and craft classes at the high school were two things that kept me sane when I questioned if I had made a sensible choice. Your loneliness will pass. It takes time to find new interests and to make friends, but it will happen. Hang in there!


The thing I've learned about being lonely is how to love just being with myself ... a huge accomplishment for me ... and remember, just because people aren't physically close, doesn't mean they're not close in your heart and mind.

Jennafer M

You are missed, my friend. But you will be okay. More than okay, really - you'll be home soon. It takes time to adjust but you'll do it. *hugs*

Toni K

Such a bummer :( I can't imagine how I'd feel if I left everything I knew. You'll get there though. I can't imagine you not making tons of new friends. Hugs girl!

Marilyn Moore

I am so sorry that you are having a hard time of it. With your friendly and outgoing personality, I predict friends and fun in the future. I can understand how much you miss your family and friends. My thoughts are with you.


We moved across country too. It was rough at first but not for long. Hang in there! Keep busy. Make the effort to meet new people.

Helen F.

Oh my sweet friend...this too shall pass. Hold all of the loved ones you are missing there in your your heart and you will feel their closeness.
This from one who knows~


Oh how difficult it is at first. And it will never be the same. As a serial mover, I know the pain and emptiness all too well. But, it does get better. I promise...or you can give me my 2 cents back. ;)

Kathryn Ritter

Dear Cath--
Like you I also find deep joy and sometimes healing in writing and poetry. I have been reading your homesickness lately and my heart really goes out to you. I have also left all I knew behind; but that time was also a time of enormous growth... and, as a sidenote, I discovered papercrafts. So good did come of it :)

I'd like to share this poem with you; I wrote it as a brand new mom cooped up in the apartment for weeks on end... like you've written, so lonely I was wondering why....

Overtaken by Thoughts of Home"

I hope it helps the sting of homesickness for you, just a little.

Kathryn Ritter

Oops, forgot to close the link tag (onehanded typing nowadays):

Overtaken by Thoughts of Home"

Danielle Flanders

I'm sorry you feel lonely. I felt that way too when we moved here 10 years ago. I still feel that way, just not as much. It took me a few years to adjust to being away from my mom. I still get sad when I think about it, but we are so much better off here and can give our girls more here. They will have a better life. So I try to keep that in mind at times when I'm feeling sad. I don't think you are too far away from me? We are near Saratoga Springs, NY.
Big hugs,

Kathy W

You are fine because: you have each other, new adventures await around every corner, you can soak up the beautiful green of the area, enjoy farmers' markets and fresh food, know that you have thousands of friends (via the internet and blogland) that care and support you. Take care.

Marlena M

I hear ya. ;(


I know the loneliness of moving. I agree with many of the comments here--
No one can understand the pain of moving and relocating unless you have done it yourself....it just takes time. Im still feeling it


Hugs to you Cath, I know what it's like to be away. I lived 3,620 miles away from everything I knew for 4 years (included an ocean!). Just wanted to let you know that I know how it feels and send you cyber hugs! It will get better!


I just wanted to pop in and say hi :) No reason - just saw you were out and about in blogland today and thought I would just poke my head in here too. I am excited to run into you at CHA again. Always nice to see familiar faces every six months. Moving is not easy (I know because South Africa is very very far) but you will see these days get to be fewer and fewer and spaced apart. Give it time and yourself time too.
PS I am sure this moment has passed for you but since I am here I thought you might need a hug anyway :)


Remember, you moved 2500 miles away...together!

Cathi Coutu

I have been there... and, like many others have said...unless you've done it... left everything and everyone (except for spouse and kids)behind...it just takes time! Hugs from someone that has been there!

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